Hum Bao

Mummy: Lionel has been becoming more & more like a "hum bao". Tis means cry baby. He can cry the moment he wakes up in the morning, crys for no reason during the day & at nite when he sleeps. I dunno wat's wrong with him.

dun wanna brush his teeth ~ crys.

refusal to carry him from the bed to the bathroom; short walk only. ~crys.

milk leaking out from his bottle & wets his clothes ~ crys

cannot find his clothes/wears his favourite ~ crys

knows dat its sch days ~ crys

dun give him sweets ~ crys

do homework ~ crys

cousin snatches toys away ~ crys

dun let him watch vcd/dvd ~ crys

switch channel on TV (when he is not able to watch his favourite channel) ~ crys

The list goes on ; no matter how u explain the situation to him, all he does is cry. Crying has become his hobby now. At the slightest irritation, he screams. Tok to him nicely doesnt work, flare up also useless. All he tells u is that he will be good; he is good but the next day, the same mistakes will repeat. Haiz.

I feel hopeless; dunno wat to do. My temper rises easily & i defintely shouted at him more times than trying to talk nicely to him.

Just last night, hb rcv a call from a fren saying some electrical works dat hb has been fixing on has gone haywire & nids hb to come down to fix it. Dat was abt 10pm plus. I told hb to better inform his son, otherwise, lionel will start yelling for his dad. He has been veyr very very sticky to his dad. Hb told Lionel dat he nids to do some work & wants lionel to sleep first. Lionel was well, i suppose, deep in his concentration on his drawing dat i guess he did not hear his daddy toking to him. So i close the door once hb left the house.

And immediately, Lionel yells for his dad: " i want daddy. i want daddy. daddy go where? i want daddy. With a monkey Rachel ard, i tried explaining things to Lionel. "Daddy has gone to do some work. He told u just now rite? Were u not listening? " " No no, i dun want. i want daddy. Why he still nid to work? Its late already...daddy" (yelling away).

Head spinning, i tried to console him & told him: "Look, Daddy will come back in a little while okay? U go sleep first. Later daddy come back, i wake u up, alright?" No do...all reasoning, all consoling failed. I gt fed up & raised my voice: " If u wanna cry, u go out & cry (opening the door & gesturing him to go out). I dun wan a notty boy inside the hse. "

Still sobbing, he crept onto the bed. I put Rachel to sleep at the same time. I told Lionel: 妈咪很累了。你都不听话的, 只会哭。好好的跟你讲也没有用, 每次都哭到吐. 跟你说不可以, 没有, 等一下, 你就是不听. 妈咪不想讲你了, 讲一次, 两次，三次也没有用. 以后, 我不讲了. 我叫藤条跟你讲.

Next year, Lionel will be 4 years old already. Will he ever grow up?